Love is the strongest force in the universe.
Love saves life, love lasts forever. Love is what makes life worth living. Love is by far the most beautiful feeling that I have ever experienced.
Isn’t love what everybody is looking for? Everybody knows how it feels to fall in love. Why do many people struggle to sustain a love for life, independent from conditions? Unbound by expectations of any kind?
People do anything for love. People kill for love. I truly believe that all wars are over love. Because someone does not feel good enough. Does not feel loved. Does not have the capacity to love and never received the love from the parents they deserved.
After contemplating the nature of life, and trying to get my own life in order, I realized what has prevented me from finding more love and the beauty that life has to offer.
“Love is the bridge between you and everything. – Rumi
Here are 13 ways to fall in love, over and over again:
1. Love more
This is kinda obvious but greatly misunderstood. Love is not something you have or get. It is something you do and something you share. And the more you share it with people, the more they will return it.
The more you do for others, out of love, the more love you will feel for them. Just remember how you act when you fall in love with someone.
Do that:
- Love people for who they are
- Make them feel like they are the most important person in your life
- Don’t judge them
- Appreciate what you have, accept what you can’t change
- Be generous
- See everything you do as an act of love
Little acts of random kindness and a genuine smile go a long way. Not just for the other, but for yourself.
2. Contemplate Death
How often do you think of death? How often have you experienced death in one form or another?
Contemplating the meaning of death has changed my relationship with the present moment.
Because: That is all I got.
I had this realization during a deeply transformative ceremony: All my problems, worries and fears become insignificant when I look at the bigger picture.
Why waste time being angry, upset or frustrated with my loved ones? If they would disappear now, they would be missed dearly. Nothing that makes me angry, frustrated or upset would hold any weight.
Why not drop that anger now? Start appreciating what you have and accept what you can’t change. It changed my life. Anger, fear, resentment and other emotions towards others just cloud the present moment and ruin relationships. Last thing to consider: Death is not the end of life but part of it.
3. Healthy lifestyle
When I changed my habits, from unhealthy and self destructive habits to empowering habits, my body and mind started rewarding me with a sense of wellbeing that I have not experienced since childhood.
Love your body, love your brain.
After all, your life depends on them. It’s your foundation for everything else in life. Not only do you possess the most sophisticated piece of technology known to mankind, but also the biggest gift you will ever receive.
Nothing compares. Treat it well, like it is your biggest treasure – because it is. When you fall in love with yourself, you cannot help but fall in love with life.
4. Life long learning
After I realized all the deficits I had in my life and began to understand the human potential, I became obsessed with learning. I have achieved things that I believed impossible a few years before.
When you make a commitment to daily learning, growing and challenging yourself, you begin to appreciate and respect who you are. You just can’t help falling in love with yourself.
5. Work that body
Your body wants to move – that is what it is made for. Stay active. Walk 10.000 steps a day(I prefer even more), lift weights, do whatever it takes to stay in motion.
Find a sport that lights you up so much that you can’t stop until you feel worn out.
(E)motions come from motion. The main function of your brain is to move your body. When it gets to do that job well, your brain is happy. A happy brain equals a happy life.
6. Find that place of inner silence
Unlike your body, your mind works best when it is still. Most of you have it backwards. You sit on a coach and engage in never ending inner dialogs.
Most of the inner narrative are recycled thoughts from previous days, months, years. On top of that, most of your inner dialogue is negative, limiting and preventing you from unfolding your true potential. If you can’t find that place of inner silence (yet), change the narrative.
Any belief about who you are, about your abilities and how the world should be is learned(or programmed) through constant repetition. If you don’t like what you hear, change it into something you like. With enough repetition it becomes part of who you are.
7. Embrace pain and discomfort
Short term pleasure leads to long term suffering, whereas short term pain leads to long term fulfillment.
Growth is painful. It requires stretching the limits of your human existence. But how can you ever find your true potential if you don’t go past your limits? Without growth, there is no fulfillment. Whatever stops growing dies.
8. Conquer your fears
For years I was running away from my fears. Avoiding them, trying to escape from them.
But guess what: You cannot run away from your fears. They will always catch up. They run faster. Eventually I made a commitment: Turn around and face them. What did I find? The joy of doing what I was avoiding most of my life. When you run away from your fears, you will always live in a fearful state.
When you face them, you learn to conquer them and realize: This wasn’t as bad as my mind made it seem. There is relief, joy and you will love yourself for having the courage and setting yourself free.
9. Feel your emotions
Maybe one of the most important lessons I have learned: Allow yourself to fully feel and accept your emotions. For a couple decades I used to suppress my emotions, numb the pain and blame others for them.
Breathwork taught me how to regulate my nervous system and deal with my emotions in a healthy way. if you don’t deal with your emotions in a healthy way, one of two things are most likely to happen:
- You suppress or numb them leading to chronic dis-ease. Probably the most common cause for leading chronic illnesses in our society
- You blame others for your emotions and let them out onto them. A habit that can destroy the best relationships
Emotions, good or bad, carry important information – use it to learn and grow. The degree to which you suppress your pain is equal to the degree to which you suppress your joy.
Both came from the same source. You cannot have one without the other. When I was chasing happiness while running away from pain, I ended up like a dog trying to catch its tail. Always running in circles. Joy runs faster and pain always catches up.
10. Connect with nature
A simple walk in the woods is highly undervalued by most. Being surrounded by nature can change your inner state and clear the mind. Stop and smell the flowers you find along the way, listen to the wind brushing through the trees. Or the silence deep in a forest covered with snow. Dig with your hands through dirt and smell it, feel the warmth of the sun on your skin or the rain whipping in your face.
There is so much beauty to be found in every moment. But with a mind closed you may fail to see it. All you have to do is open your senses and take it all in. It’s there all the time. It’s always been there.
11. Stop resisting
Simply stop resisting what is. Resistance causes suffering. Life is what it is, not what you want it to be. Let go of an expectation and let the flow of life unfold its true beauty.
Energy wants to flow freely, uninterrupted. That’s what life is: Energy manifesting itself as matter. And when you stop blocking the flow of life, you will awake the love inside of you.
12. Curiosity
Approach life with a child-like curiosity. Stop making assumptions.
Assumptions limit your perspective and close your mind to new possibilities. Childlike curiosity opens the mind(and the heart). When you approach every situation with an open (or beginners) mind, you are able to see beauty, love and harmony where before you could only see darkness, chaos and confusion.
Not everything is the way you see it if you are looking from a narrow point of view or from the wrong angle. The picture you are seeing is a distorted or filtered part of the whole.
13. Gratitude
Gratitude is the memory of the heart and can heal what anger, resentment and fear will destroy. Just the simple act of finding gratitude for being alive will create more beauty and love in your life. What you appreciate appreciates you and will find you. A truly happy human being will feel grateful for simply waking up in the morning. If being alive is all what it takes to be grateful for, you fall in love with life over and over again
I could continue – forever. There are unlimited opportunities to fall in love with life. Over and over again.
But you need to figure them out yourself. That is the fun of this game we call life. Where would the fun be if you had it all presented on a golden platter? There would be no challenge, there would be no growth, there would be no fulfillment.
Embracing the journey without an end goal in mind, emotionally detached from the outcome of your efforts is the key to loving every single step you take along the way. We play games with the intention to win – while having fun.
The game of life is rigged, we all are going to win. Forget about heaven or hell. We all have the same destination – some might walk through hell on their way there – created by their own mind. If you are not in love with life, you can’t see it yet. Why wait for the game to end – enjoy what you have now. Know that you already won – you were born, you are alive. Love life and life will become loving!
Enjoying every breath you take. Breathing is a powerful tool for releasing everything that blocks self-love, love for others, and the ability to see the true beauty of this one magnificent life you have.
It help you to:
- Regulate your nervous system
- Release stuck emotions
- Resolve trauma
- Surrender to what is
- Anchor yourself in the present
- Connect to the power within
Some call it spiritual nonsense—others know the truth because they’ve experienced it firsthand. Modern neuroscience explains the mechanisms behind it, from brain chemistry to nervous system function.
Are you ready and willing to create more love for yourself, for those in your life and humanity?
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