When you change the relationship with your past, you learn to live in When you change the relationship with your past, you learn to live in the present and start creating your future.
When you create your future – you take responsibility for your destiny.
In todays newsletter I want to share how my early childhood shaped my reality and how breathwork helped me break free form the past.
Most people have the hardest time letting go of the past. They dwell there as if their life depends on it.
The past will lock you down with iron chains, preventing you from reaching your destination. Your biggest goals and dreams will remain distant dreams too far away to reach while living in chains.
The good news is:
It does not have to be this way!
Your past does not define you – where you come from doesn’t dictate where you are going!
Your past does not define your future. You can always begin again. – Sri Sri Ravi Shankar –
Those iron chains keeping you imprisoned are imaginary! You have the power to cut them loose and move on!
The benefits are invaluable!
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Abundance of love, joy and fulfillment
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Increase health, wealth and vitality
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Better relationship
Life will begin flowing with ease. You learn to live. If you aren’t living – you are dying!
3 keys to changing the relationship with your past:
1.Forgive those you once blamed
2. Find gratitude for your darkest days
3. Transform limiting beliefs into empowering truths
For 20 years I blamed my mother for two things:
For my fear and inability to talk in public and the social awkwardness it created throughout my whole life as well as the belief that I am not good enough!
Both are direct misinterpretations of things she said to me in my early childhood. The meaning I gave to her words created the reality I lived in. It created a misconception of reality!
The two things I blamed her for originated from two sentences that I heard over and over again.
The first one was: Talking is silver – silence is gold.
The belief that I created was: No-one wants to listen to me. My opinions don’t matter. I have nothing valuable to say.
I develop fear of public speaking, talking in front of groups or to strangers in general. I was unable to express myself in a meaningful way.
This interpretation of mine couldn’t be any further from the truth. That was not what she meant. It was only what I understood.
No mother would say such a thing to their child. It was my assumption of what she meant!
What she really meant was: Be careful what you say and when you say it. Some people might not be ready with what you have to share. If in doubt – remain silent.
After my first ayahuasca experience and as part of my breathwork training we were told: Be very mindful who you share your experience with. Only share it with people who are genuinely interested or have had a similar experience.
You will avoid a lot of confusion, misunderstanding or doubt.
The second one was: Only the greatest will succeed.
This is what she told me whenever I had a big dream, a goal, or a vision for my future.
My interpretation: I am not good enough. I will never achieve my goals. I don’t have what it takes. This belief limited me from learning what it takes in order to create what I want. Why even try, I am not good enough anyway, I will fail.
Again, no mother would say that to their child. Why would she – she knows who I am!
Those are only words I put into her mouth.
What she really meant was: Time to get your shit together! If that’s what you want, make sure you acquire all the skills you need in order to succeed. You have what it takes, but without effort you will fail.
These two sentences from my early childhood shaped my reality for over 30 years. They created a belief of who I am. Believes create reality and become self fulfilling, until you break the cycle.
How do you break the cycle?
Breaking cycles isn’t easy. Especially for the one playing the game. It takes a willingness to change and a mind that is open.
In order to break the cycle, three things need to happen.
1.) You need to forgive those you blame – and take full responsibility over who you are.
As long as you have a victim mentally and blame others, you will never find the fault within yourself.
2.) You need to find gratitude – seeing the good things you received.
If you are only looking at the negative sides, your senses are blurred, you cannot see the full picture. Your mind will stay closed. Finding gratitude for your darkest moments will open your mind and help you change your perspective.
You are suddenly able to see clearly.
3.) You need to identify your limiting beliefs – and replace them with empowering beliefs.
A Chinese proverb: If you think you can or you can’t both are true.
What do you believe about yourself? As long as you are holding on to a negative belief about who you are, you will remain that person.
You cannot do it by yourself. Just as the eye cannot see itself without a mirror – you cannot change the way you think with the same thinking you have used for decades.
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The day I broke the cycle:
My first Breathwork session was the day everything changed for me!
This session was as powerful as many of my ayahuasca ceremonies.
The result: To this day I question everything I believe to be true about this life and about myself. It is in ongoing practice.
Since then, breathwork has become an important tool in my healing process.
The experience helped me to open my mind and see a different perspective. Breathwork has helped me identify and question outdated beliefs that are anchored in my subconscious mind.
And once I learned to question them, I learned to replace them with empowering beliefs.
Simply by doing the things that I believe I cannot do.
Instead of blaming my mother – I take responsibility now. I trust in myself and not in the image that others have of me.
And most of all, I learned the power of gratitude. Gratitude itself is the most powerful healer. Seek and you shall find. When you continue searching for gratitude, you will find gratitude for your darkest day and it will transform your life in ways you cannot even imagine.
You experience beauty and abundance that is hidden from the eye of those who continue looking for the negative aspect of things or experiences.
Conclusion:
The past can be tempting because it is familiar. However, you will never discover anything new when you are navigating in familiar waters.
If the definition of who you are is based on your past experiences it is time to break the cycle.
The past will drag you down into muddy waters, where light cannot reach.
However, you will never feel depressed again, when you let go of the past, because you start living in the moment. You will never feel anxiety about the future again, because you start creating your own reality.
Instead of the victim of others, you become the creator of yourself!
You are not at the mercy of others any longer.
The mind works best when open. As long as you blame others, aren’t able to find gratitude and hold on to outdated beliefs, your mind will remain closed.
If you truly understood how powerful your mind is, you wouldn’t say or think something you wouldn’t want to be true. – Jim Kwik –
Your mind is the most sophisticated technology known to mankind. But in order for it to function to its best potential, you need a hard reset, format it and install a new operating system. The past is like running MS-DOS – how capable would a computer be today while still running that system?
The sønner you let go, the easier it is and the faster you will move on.
If you are curious about breathwork and want to learn more about how breathwork can help you to let go of the past – join one of my upcoming free breathwork sessions.
With deep gratitude
Hans
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